The Sting of Failure

It probably seems like an eternity since you first decided that you were going to go for it.  You were going to put yourself out there and apply for that new position.  When you finally did, it felt great.  You got the call for the interview and you nailed it.

Now comes the hardest part….

You’ve applied, you’ve interviewed, and then you’ve waited.  You have waited to hear if you would get the job for what seems like forever and then….

You don’t get it.

Well folks… that is exactly what happened to me.   I applied for the job that was going to push me forward to my goals of Executive Director or CEO and it went to someone else.  It definitely messed up my perfect little plan.  My road to onward and upward looks a lot more like backward and downward.

I had everything set – I was going to begin my climb up the ladder of success and never look back.  I guess God had other plans.  In Jeremiah he says that he knows all that is planned for you.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

He doesn’t want you to worry about that, because you know what, he’s got it. So, what are you to do when you feel that failure has happened? How do you cope with the idea that your pretty little plan hasn’t worked out the way you wanted?


Above all things you must pray about it.  Like I already said, God has a plan for you, and it may not be the one you have for yourself.  You have to pray and have faith that there will be something coming along – maybe when you least expect it.  Pray to him for whatever it is that you need.  If you are in need of healing, pray for it.  If you are in need of guidance, pray for it.  Maybe you are in need of calming (that was me), pray for it.  God does listen.

Be Angry If You Need To

It’s okay to be angry about it.  It’s even okay to be angry at the person who made the decision, but don’t waste time brooding over the fact that you deserved it more than them. Definitely don’t focus that energy negatively.  Go home, cry it out, dance it out, run it out – Whatever you do, do it and get back to being you.  Keep working hard and being the best you can possibly be.

Be Positive and Constructive

As upset as you may be, you can turn all that frustration into something positive.  Channel those irritations into a project at home or a workout at the gym.  By focusing that aggression or other emotions into something else you may be able to process them more thoroughly and instead of creating a scene or an outburst you have an optimistic outcome that you can get something out of.

Bring Out the Resume

Now, not all situations need to result in bulking up the resume and sending it out, but if you feel that you need to find a new home – go for it!  Sometimes a change of scenery is just what you need to succeed.  Maybe that promotion was the last straw and it finally broke the camel’s back when you weren’t selected.  If that is you put yourself out there and find that dream job.  Find that job that is going to drive you to be a better person and a better employee.

Don’t Sell Yourself Short

Just because you were not the one chosen does not mean you are not a qualified worker.  As defeating as it can be to be passed over for a position or a promotion you have to understand that you are a good worker.  The other applicants may just simply have more experience than you or have a better grasp on the position.  Even if they don’t there is a reason they were picked.   Stay true to yourself and know that you are amazing, even without that promotion.

Tonight, I am probably going to go home and cry.  I am probably going to cry a lot.  Tomorrow I am going to come back work my tail off, like I do every day, and hope that somewhere along the way it is acknowledged.  I might start thinking about making my resume look better than it does right now – Maybe I will apply to a few of those other positions I have been eyeing.  As down and out as I feel right now, I know it won’t last forever and eventually the sting will lessen and the wound of failure will close.  Although, I am almost positive it will appear again.  At this point, I don’t know where my life is going or what I am supposed to be doing.  As uncertain as I am and as much as I hate that feeling, God does have a plan for what is to come.  You just have to believe it.

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